Fakeville USA
As a wife who has lived a "porn" mentality but without the cameras, I feel as though I can say this in all truth.
Pornography is really about Wrong Thinking. Being "stuck in porn" is in reality to be "stuck in wrong thinking." Change the thinking and the porn goes bye-bye. No longer is one "stimulated" by what they see because what they will begin to see is people devaluing one another, people using people (whom the Lord Jesus died for because their souls are of VALUE to Him by the way)for nothing more than friction. And then we throw the words "love" in there to make it sound wonderful.
Porn is nothing more than the ugliness of the mind put on film. And yet, we bring this same mentality into the marital bedroom and call it "honorable", "sacred", "love"....... Oh yes, "I can feel the love", can't you?
Lust is lovelessness whether caught on film or in the privacy of one's bedroom. Jesus said, "Marriage (as God designed it) is honorable and the marriage bed (as God designed it) is undefiled but husbands who are adulterous of mind and sex-mongers, God will judge.
Wives who are giving themselves to their husband's lovelessness are porn actresses without the cameras. We are provided roofs over our heads, clothes, food- and yet the human spirit that was created to be Loved by God and man is dying inside. My first husband used to say, "I put a roof over your head. I should be able to get sex when I want it." (Edited by Moderator) And we wives keep going because we think that maybe "this is the time my husband will love me".
My theme song was, "Bend me, shape me any way you want to. As long as you love me, that's alright." After giving my youth, all of myself for the purpose of pleasing, I was thrown away anyway for another woman. Funny part is- I had been along, I just didn't know it.
God delivered me from the land of Fakeville of almost 19 years. But, before He did, I came back to Him in a huge, forever-life changing way. The VERY FIRST verses He brought me to were, "I will praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvellous are Your works and my soul knows that right well."
Me? "Lord, I am fearfully and wonderfully made? I am marvellous?" The answer was, "Yes Marchel- you are wonderful to Me. When are you going to accept that truth and LIVE in it?"
My thinking was forever changed that day. My first husband left me anyway because he wanted to remain in "wrong thinking" but one thing is sure- he SAW a difference in me.
When will we begin to accept God's Love for us? As soon as we do, the porn will go away because as we value ourselves as God does, we will automatically value others. And if we do happen to look at porn- all of the sudden we will see people for whom the Lord Jesus died for, they will be people with names, having brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers- perhaps even a family dog named Binky.
Jesus said, "I have come to give Life and Life more abundantly." Yes, indeed!!!!
I no longer live in Fakeville, USA. I wish I had my recent husband to share in this most precious freedom but he's still lives there and still stuck in wrong thinking.
Meanwhile back at the ranch, I am STILL fearfully and wonderfully made in the eyes of God and yes, I have ACCEPTED God's "opinion" of me. Hallelujah! Someday, my recent husband will figure out that he is too and he will accept that truth for himself. (I tried to tell him but he wouldn't listen to me........... He will remember my words someday when he hears the voice of God but that is for God to determine the day and the hour.)
"Put on the MIND of Jesus." What a beautiful mind, indeed.
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That is THE most EXCELLENT thing I've ever read about how we SHOULD view ALL PEOPLE, "as someone that Jesus LOVED SOOOOOOO MUCH that He died for that person"! You shifted my whole view, actually...greatly improved the clarity of my vision :-)
Sincerely,
Ghostess
"Tami"
That is so true. I'm a guy who's been stuck in addiction to porn forever. I've tried to stop a million times, but the draw just kept pulling me back in.
It was not until I learned that a couple porn stars I knew of had been saved and left the business. I flooded my mind with new things. I absorbed massive amounts of information about the reality of porn. As a guy, it is so easy to imagine that what you see is real. It's really out there somewhere, and that these girls love what they do and they love that you love it.
When you are confronted with the reality of porn, and you embrace it as the evil that it is, it is very hard from that point on to even be tempted by it. Because now, you recognize that the temptation is a lie. You always knew it in the back of your mind, but you choose to ignore it.
I saw a young girl (no more than 18) with a low cut top and a big tattoo on her chest at the store yesterday, but instead of my mind racing off to all those familiar destinations, I felt so sad. I didn't think it looked sexy, I didn't think she looked hot, I ached for her. I prayed that God would reach her and let her know that she's not alone, and that He loves her and has amazing plans for her life.
When you see porn as that reality, you can not only avoid temptation, you can actually start to do the work of God in the same places you used to do the work of the devil.
Kinda cool when you think about it.....
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. And to be a guy to say those things is way cool as to what the Lord has done in your mind and heart. God will use men like you to present "a more excellent way".
The record of Jesus at the well with a woman who was giving herself sexually and how He honored and respected her while in her sins, sends a warmth flooding through my veins. He did not see her as other men saw her with thoughts of lust for self- or even how she had come to see herself. What He offered her was worth, dignity and value by inviting her into His way of thinking and OUT of hers.
"For God Loved the world so much, He GAVE His only Son so that whoever believes that He is the Redeemer will not ever die but will have everlasting Life."