As a wife who has lived a "porn" mentality but without the cameras, I feel as though I can say this in all truth.
Pornography is really about Wrong Thinking. Being "stuck in porn" is in reality to be "stuck in wrong thinking." Change the thinking and the porn goes bye-bye. No longer is one "stimulated" by what they see because what they will begin to see is people devaluing one another, people using people (whom the Lord Jesus died for because their souls are of VALUE to Him by the way)for nothing more than friction. And then we throw the words "love" in there to make it sound wonderful.
Porn is nothing more than the ugliness of the mind put on film. And yet, we bring this same mentality into the marital bedroom and call it "honorable", "sacred", "love"....... Oh yes, "I can feel the love", can't you?
Lust is lovelessness whether caught on film or in the privacy of one's bedroom. Jesus said, "Marriage (as God designed it) is honorable and the marriage bed (as God designed it) is undefiled but husbands who are adulterous of mind and sex-mongers, God will judge.
Wives who are giving themselves to their husband's lovelessness are porn actresses without the cameras. We are provided roofs over our heads, clothes, food- and yet the human spirit that was created to be Loved by God and man is dying inside. My first husband used to say, "I put a roof over your head. I should be able to get sex when I want it." (Edited by Moderator) And we wives keep going because we think that maybe "this is the time my husband will love me".
My theme song was, "Bend me, shape me any way you want to. As long as you love me, that's alright." After giving my youth, all of myself for the purpose of pleasing, I was thrown away anyway for another woman. Funny part is- I had been along, I just didn't know it.
God delivered me from the land of Fakeville of almost 19 years. But, before He did, I came back to Him in a huge, forever-life changing way. The VERY FIRST verses He brought me to were, "I will praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvellous are Your works and my soul knows that right well."
Me? "Lord, I am fearfully and wonderfully made? I am marvellous?" The answer was, "Yes Marchel- you are wonderful to Me. When are you going to accept that truth and LIVE in it?"
My thinking was forever changed that day. My first husband left me anyway because he wanted to remain in "wrong thinking" but one thing is sure- he SAW a difference in me.
When will we begin to accept God's Love for us? As soon as we do, the porn will go away because as we value ourselves as God does, we will automatically value others. And if we do happen to look at porn- all of the sudden we will see people for whom the Lord Jesus died for, they will be people with names, having brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers- perhaps even a family dog named Binky.
Jesus said, "I have come to give Life and Life more abundantly." Yes, indeed!!!!
I no longer live in Fakeville, USA. I wish I had my recent husband to share in this most precious freedom but he's still lives there and still stuck in wrong thinking.
Meanwhile back at the ranch, I am STILL fearfully and wonderfully made in the eyes of God and yes, I have ACCEPTED God's "opinion" of me. Hallelujah! Someday, my recent husband will figure out that he is too and he will accept that truth for himself. (I tried to tell him but he wouldn't listen to me........... He will remember my words someday when he hears the voice of God but that is for God to determine the day and the hour.)
"Put on the MIND of Jesus." What a beautiful mind, indeed.